Speak to My Finger

Love is something humans often starved for despite being intangible and elusive. I have a friend who once shared that she will not give up in love regardless how many times she has failed. I think many of my friends have fell in and out of love an average of 7 times in their life until they finally found their current partner.

I don't understand why love is such a complex topic not mentioning infectious and contagious. I don't understand why there are times people have to intrude a relationship.

Recently my mum told me of a true life account of a colleague whose husband was snatched away via black magic. I ponder how could any one sought such methods in the name of love. Won't it be happier if the couple is loving each other willingly?

Sometimes it doesn't even need whatsoever magic to keep you falling for a person. You may have a list of characteristics the guy/girl needs to fulfil, but somehow you just change your mind when you met someone. And without any magic that person is nailed into your mind, which somewhat distract you from performing your daily activities. But the question here is ... is this what you called love? Or just a crush?

I have yet to ask my friend if she loves her husband now. Well, she arranged her own marriage to a guy she would never even consider of becoming friends. Why did she do it? She and her now husband did it in the name of personal development. I remember me and my friends just went gag. What a goal in life. I'm not sure if I can even do that. It's pretty funny talking to them when the husband is often blur while she has a sharp mind. I remember the first time I saw the husband in the car ... I thought what a cute couple!

What is love? How do you know you are loving that person? You know love can't make you full, but it can make you sleepless. Oh yea, it can make us thinner too.

If you look at marketing perspective, everyone is selling himself or herself as the perfect life partner. In short, we are all like products except this world is now populated with too many brands aka choices. But somehow it's kinda easy to weed out the brands that you don't want. Some brands will display some inappropriate or some characteristics that irk you, so you delete them from your list. Not that hard to downsize your list right?

Many friends of mine often wonder why I don't have a partner. Yes. Partner: a polite word for boyfriend/girlfriend. It's used to not distinguish the sexuality of one's partner. I thought it's such a neat word. I cannot imagine asking my homo friends which one of you is the guy/girl. I think I asked once jokingly, and my reply was a dagger stare from my friend and a cheeky grin from the partner.

OK. Let's resume with our market talk.

In the market, products are labelled with prices. The lower you go the more people will buy. Correct? The higher the price is the better quality is. Correct? That is what we assume la.

And yes I'm using market terms as allegory to describe the love players market here. I know some people get partner very easily. I also know my friends and even family members often ponder why my sister and I are partner-less. Friends commented that I sell myself too expensive. Their advise is reduce the price so I can be transacted. Right. They didn't tell me what kind of partner I will get should I lower down my price.

That is where my fear is found. My friends often advise me to reduce the price but they never even bother to ask why. Is the price that important? Just wondering which is more important between price and happiness. Do you think I should just simply get a boyfriend because by market terms, I'm reaching expiry date soon? I won't compromise on happiness. If I'm just too expensive, then just move on darling!

Sometimes I don't understand why people have to be judgemental when comes to a person's relationship. It's seriously none of their and even my business. Is it so hard to bless one's relationship? Well, even a villain can love a person. So why do some people have to butt in? Why can't they have faith in that person's relationship? Why didn't they realise no one wanted an unhappy ending in their relationship? So instead of judging why not assist the couples in creating more loving memories? It's ok if the relationship didn't turn out well, but in the least they learn right? So why do pre-curse their relationship?!

I also don't understand why some people would want to play with people's emotions. I'm not sure if my friends have been hurt recently or rather people say 'trap' when they have been posting some messages on facebook that goes like this:

After you said all those cute things, you just walk away as though nothing happen.

I think using emotions to hurt a person is more painful than dying in war.

My point here is ... err ... I don't remember my whole objective of writing this except love is so troublesome. But that doesn't mean I don't believe in happy ending in my own life. I actually have so many things related to this topic to get off of my chest, but sigh ... maybe next time.

For now, I just want happiness and joy for my friends.