Marriage is not about sex, or is it?

I thought the curiosity to my gender has died down since no one has been telling me to get a boyfriend since my vocal teacher gave me a lectern a few weeks ago. Unfortunately I could not escape from a friend's scrutiny.

Again, I was asked about this boyfriend thing.

This time my friend asked from a different angle. He questioned would I be satisfied without having sex. Huh?! I hated this question but he has asked for my consent to discuss on adults topic. But still it's better to kill his curiosity before he keeps on probing me on our future midnight coffee break.

Well, I cannot lie that I never thought of that question but all the time it never strike me as a NEED, it is more of a WANT. And my friend said he salutes me for thinking that way or being able to flush out the sex thing out of my mind and being able to be an urban nun. Well, I just told him the truth because if a person never fantasies about sex, that person is abnormal indeed. And I'm not abnormal to that extent. And hey I like to watch Queer as Folk, ok?? The main male character in that series is HOT. Have not heard of this series??? Ooh.. if you dislike the topic of gay alone, don't bother to watch because it has explicit sex scenes between males. HAHA.

My friend was very curious to know why I don't have the desire to have my own children. Because to him, he feels it's a gift to be able to produce a living thing from a woman's womb. He would want to experience it if he's a woman. But why not me? I don't know. I can't answer this question myself. It might stem out from an incident 12 years ago and then not long after that incident I realised this world is overpopulated and this is straining the Earth. Thus leading me to deciding not to have own children, I decided to adopt. I remember debating over this stupid topic with the narrow minded classmates of mine. I wonder do they remember this! Again, to me pregnant or not is a WANT not a NEED. But I seriously don't mind donating my eggs. It would be interesting to see a child having my DNA and another person's. I wonder will the kid be as beautiful as me. HAHA.

A lecturer colleague reminded me that if I don't have a life partner, to be exact, sex I would end up like those grumpy old virgins in my surroundings like my auntie. HAHA. The scientific reason for this is ... sexual intercourse releases some kind of hormones in a person and this hormone makes the person happy. So no sex, less happiness in short. So my colleague reminded me I would be grumpy if I become an old spinster. Ugh...

So what if you have sex when you are not in a happy marriage? Sex might just one the contributors to happiness. I'm not trying to go against other people's beliefs but it's just this is my belief. And is my sexual life that interesting?

well,I agree that sex is not a NEED and so as Pregnant as well but sometimes sexual do have important role when its come to survival of the marriage.

Apart of that, you sounds like you never gonna fall in love or never intend to having a relantionship which those relantionship will evantually develop into marriage.
i hope u dun mind with my curiosity.
» isley (60.51.125.147) on 2010-01-25 01:12:40

Well i guess people are just so curious with everything- if you are in the courtship they will ask when are u getting married, after you have got married when are u getting children and after you have got the first one, when will be the 2nd one and so on....that is just so "asian" which is already build in our genes. Some people will ask those questions purely to satisfy their curiosity but only a few are out of sincere concern. But i guess we have to put ourselves in other people's shoes before we start asking even though this is afterall out of good will. coz we never know if such questions might hurt...
» sdovelly.wordpress.com (203.115.246.37) on 2010-01-25 06:47:58

Hmm. I never thought of this topic in that way. Sex does make you feel the emotion of happyness, but it also matters on "who" you have sex with.
My thoughts are on love mostly though. If there is no love in the person you are with, then what's the point of sex.
Yes I am alive ;P
» Domino (97.94.228.0) on 2010-01-26 07:22:48

I agree with you that having sex and being pregnant is a want and not a need because one will not die if they do not have both. Like you, I also know that I am not having any children of my own.

BTW, DIY can also release those happy hormones. ;-)
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