Permit me to revisit this subject: marriage, love and dreams.

If you expect me to respect your beliefs and being for what you are even though you drive me mad for not recycling, then don't tell me one of these:

1) you are so weird for not wanting to have a family/ are you sure you are a girl?/ you are the only girl I have ever came across that doesn't want to have family/

followed by some girlish giggles and smirking smiles...

2) why? because you are scared of guys ah?

followed by a sly smile... <= this came from a guy

3) why you don't want to get marry? what a waste.

4) how come you don't have boyfriend one? aiyo ... what a pity.

Let me reiterate which I'm kinda tired (thank god I'm immuned). I never thought of getting a boyfriend, getting married or even having kids. And stop blabbering 'you must at least try to get pregnant once in a lifetime... just for the experience.' That's impasse, senpai (senior in Japanese). I'm seriously not interested because:

1) life is larger than having a boyfriend, getting married, having sex or one night stand and having kids. If that so, then please stop all you activities and just look at your boyfriend all day long for 365 days like the moon standing by the sun during the day and vice versa. Got the picture?

2) whatever your dreams is, it won't fall into pieces by just getting married and have kids. If you dream of traveling around the world, would it be achieved by getting married? And having kids? Geez... don't tell me your dreams have been achieved the day after you got married.

3) why do I have to sacrifice myself for a dream that I never dream of, stupid?! you want to get married is because you want to marry and bring your life into another stage of life. I have made myself clear from the beginning that I want to be single so don't try to brainwash me to become one of you.

4) I have seen ugly scenes inside a broken marriage where the wife regrets for marrying and spends her youth and her lifetime for the family but ended up being accused for cheating and spending money like water when this is utterly not true (what a gobshite husband). Being an insider, do I really want to give my whole life to another person that I thought I would find happiness but only to end up in deep shit? Oh yes, there's always divorce but why the hell do I want to get stuck for many years before I divorce or separate? So time inefficient.

And I just didn't tell them in those offender's face that:

1) I have a high standard for the one so don't go shitting on me that I have to lower my standards just to get a boyfriend. The bad news is this tough kitty only needs money to survive. Who cares about the dick?

And please don't ever console me with:

1) Aiya! All guys are not like that. but who gives a damn?! They just don't fit my list! Duh~

2) Aiyo! If you married ah, then you can become rich faster or instantly rich. Yea so? I'm not handicapped and I got a brain to make myself rich. Why do I have to rely on someone else to make myself rich? I think someone told me this is called 'leveraging' with a determined face. So? What are you leveraging on to be rich which is transferred from your partner? If you want to be rich the lazy way, go ahead, just don't spread your rich laziness to me; it's extremely unhealthy. And yes I know it's a legitimate shortcut but are you undermining my abilities to be rich too? And also yourself most importantly?

Before I finish my last sentence ... some people in our society needs a new brainwashing software. And labelling me as abnormal just because you are aligned with soeciety norms doesn't make you any different from everyone else; you will still be judged from your personality and characteristic... and if you act and think outside of the 'normal' radar set by the society. You are still abnormal, you little twerp.

If you attack me again, I will make sure you will be on your knees asking me to be your mistress. HAHA (Just joking... I rest my case).

You're a smart woman. Stay that way!
» foolishgames on 2008-10-09 11:25:30

who step ur tail today/? need cincang service? commander orange is at ur service...

ignore them la...
» jolenesiah on 2008-10-09 11:37:54

:D i respect your decision of staying unmarried and admire your goals and dreams.....


And dont lower ur standards EVER... i have a really bad prob about doing that...


i would also like to thank u for ur advice.. I think its helped me the most out of everyone that i have talked to and given their advice to me.

and u asked me how long did it take for him to have feelings for me after my friend decided to date me....... which really got me thinking and it really wasnt that long at all......... which also raises other questions and makes me actually think about it instead of jumping into something ill regret later.....

so thank you ^-^
» Ruby-in-slippers on 2008-10-09 09:12:56

I know what you mean. I've never hidden the fact I did not marry for any other reason then money. Cheaper taxes, cheaper health insurance, etc. There are tons of benefits of being married and I took advantage of them. My husband and I were together 8 years before we got married and only got married to take advantage of it. We already had love, devotion and complete commitment. Marriage is something that was made to promote monogamy.

I also understand not wanting kids. I get people telling me those things as well and...I just stand my ground. I normally laugh hard while telling them I'll become a 5'8" white girl with brown hair and violet eyes. It shuts them up pretty quick. XD

I just have some words of pure advice only. I had extremely high standards for a boyfriend. When I met my husband I threw out half of my expectations. I didn't care because I just knew he was the one. Sometimes the person you should be with had ticks you thought you'd never put up with or deal with. :)
» Katrina on 2008-10-09 11:04:09

You go girl! I just don't understand why some people give me that weird looks when I told them that I've never dated before. If staying single is meant for me, then I'll stay single. I'm content with just having friends by my side till I get swept off my feet.
» Nuttz on 2008-10-10 02:54:38

some ppl are jst out there to try to talk ppl into being like them n for those kinda ppl! screw them! we dont need those kinda ppl to tell us wht we should do with our life! as long as you're happy, that's more than enough. even for me, being in a relationship or not, i still put myself first. some call me selfish but i dont give a f#$% bout wht they think, cuz at the end of the day, u've u urself to proud of so i totally support your idea there! :)
» AlexisNg on 2008-10-10 04:36:24

re comment
hah, right? Where's my effin chicken? sheesh.

I'm starting to feel a bit better today, thank god.
» foolishgames on 2008-10-10 09:39:49

i guess buildings are not for everyone eh? i even thought of studyin architecture when i was much younger but then i knew it was jst the heat of the moment kinda thingy...even Gaudi, he wasnt like the brightest student when he was studyin artchitecture but he sure turns out to be a genuis at his creation
» AlexisNg on 2008-10-10 10:44:09

r:c
yes , i agree with ya that returnin to the past might jst induce that feelin of regret and so on , but in the case of the poem , its bout a child being far away from home, s basically goin back for just one day will sort of ease the homesick kinda feel n perhaps some courage will spring up :)
» AlexisNg on 2008-10-10 10:49:29

I don't quite like tobleron... they're hard to eat.
» Nuttz on 2008-10-10 10:53:40

I'm thinking stomach flu. It lasted what, 5 days, and it's still not fully out. Blech. haha
» foolishgames on 2008-10-10 12:10:48

ryn: heheh... suipoh... not u la... the customer... i really geram la... so late... today also ma...when i call and they tell me they r still at home.. pengnsan or not
» jolenesiah on 2008-10-10 09:59:43

re:c
i actually wrote that for my mom. it all started from the thoughts of being away from home...at times she drives me up the wall n i blurted things like "i cant wait to move out" n things like that n i can see from her eyes n facial expression that she's not happy with it n since my relationship with my mom has been improved as compared to when i was younger, i know that no matter how far i'd go, ill always go back to my "nest"
» AlexisNg on 2008-10-11 12:42:02

haha thanks
where did you get this? it's really well written

and about the post a while back. yeah i only have a video, but i could probably find a picture from the fitting if you still want to see
» Alam on 2008-10-11 01:01:35

Re:
The shape of tobleron makes it hard to eat. I love the dark chocolate ones.

I don't know how much she bought it for.. She never allow me to pay her back for the chocs she buy for me.
» Nuttz on 2008-10-11 02:51:22

wah.....your answer very powerful~
hahaha.
whoever is it i think will definitely get the message... hehehe
» (219.94.51.218) on 2008-10-14 02:19:20

*clap* a good one meow~we r the controller of our life,so y shud we giv a damm bout ppl's comments?everyone is different.and yeah,DIFFERENT.
i like how u stand up and shouting out loud~hahas =D
» alicia (124.82.125.175) on 2008-10-15 01:43:58

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